Do you ever feel isolated or alone, even when you're
with other people? Do you feel like no one really knows you? Does it feel like
everyone else knows what they're doing and you're just trying to get by?
A lot of my clients have come to me because they were feeling that way. Despite
those feelings, they had been hanging on, if just barely. Then something happened
to make them realize that it wasn't working any more, or that they weren't satisfied
with living that way any more. They decided it was time for a change.
One of the things that happens when you feel like you don't matter is that you
don't share yourself with other people; you're afraid that you'll be rejected or
criticized or misunderstood, because you have learned to criticize yourself and
assume that everyone else will, too.
That's one way that counseling can help. Counseling provides a safe space to be
yourself and not be rejected. You can finally be listened to and understood.
I also offer a counseling group for people who grew up in families where the
children's needs were not adequately met for a variety of reasons, including, among
others, parental alcoholism, mental illness, or chronic physical illness, or possibly
the death or absence of one or both parents. This group provides a wonderfully
accepting and empowering experience for group members because they realize
that they're not alone; others have had similar experiences, thoughts, and feelings